Ok, let’s get this out of the way. I am not fond of the celebration of the New Year. I kind of feel like it is a bit of a cheat. It seems to be a day where we are offered a new start where all the bad things disappear, and all good things take their place. That is just not the case. When you get up on January first the same issues in your life are right there staring you in the face and no amount of toasting in the New Year will solve those issues.
Now I know this is just me, or maybe not. There are probably a few people who agree with me, but the majority are sure New Year believers and maybe they have a point.
New Year is a time of renewal in many areas of our lives. A time to evaluate where we are and correct the course is necessary, To do this though you must do a deep self-examination and this is hard to do because it means being brutally honest about all areas of your life.
For instance, let’s use me as an example. I admitted to myself a couple of months ago that I am overweight, grossly overweight and if I didn’t do something about it I would probably die much sooner than the rest of my family who weighs in the right range. I told myself to look around, there are no old fat people. And as far as I know, there are none. I have been obese for years and the medical community didn’t warn me of the dangers, in fact, most of my docs avoided discussing the matter until I said, “Im fat and something has to be done.” Then they could speak.
I believe one of the reasons the docs are afraid to talk about weight issues is because of this new thing called fat shaming. Now while I totally agree that kids on the playground should not insult the fat kid, I disagree that once you have grown up and someone mentions your weight you should be happy someone cares enough about you to say something. To tell heavyset, obese, or fat people to feel good about themselves and to be proud of who they are physically is just plain stupid. I’m going to be quite clear. I’m ashamed of myself for letting things go this far. I’m uncomfortable in movie and theater seats. I don’t like the way I look and I know I am damaging my body by being this size.
This is a brutal self-examination but it is necessary if there is to be change.
We cannot live in a world where change is scorned or where people fear it. We did, in Europe for many years and that time in history is called The Dark Ages. Nothing changed during those terrible years but when they ended people began to think and thinking both good and bad is what brought us where we are today.
You can have Dark Ages ib your own life. That time when you see yourself as perfect when you are far from it. All the years I denied I was gaining weight were my own Dark Ages and it has led me to where I am now.
It’s not just the weight and how I look. It’s getting out of breath while carrying something. It’s feeling my heart race when all I’ve done is walk across the room. Being short of breath from doing the simplest of tasks and having my feet and legs hurt all the more because of the weight I carry.
That exams my physical body and assesses the problem fairly well. Now, what’s to be done about it. I have already begun a program of weight loss. With my doctor’s approval, I am doing Slimfast for two meals and a sensible dinner. The reality of that plan is my morning Slimfast shake with an apple and 16 ounces of water lasts me till around four o’clock so for the most part I don’t use the second shake. I know my stomach, at least, has shrunk as I can only eat a much smaller amount at dinner than I used to.
After a physical assessment is done a mental assessment must also be done. My mental and emotional state, in general, is better than it was before. I still need therapy and appropriate medication but in many ways, I am a much calmer person than I used to be. I can be honest with myself, I no longer rely on comfort food to help me get thru rough patches and other negative behaviors have become much more under my control. My emotions are no longer controlling me as much as I realize that emotions are first response tools. You have to be careful to digest a first response and think about it before acting on it. If I get bad news, for example, my first response would be to eat something to make me feel better about the bad news. I can’t do that. First response emotions will die down and go away after a while especially if you use your brain to think through your response. If we respond to anything in anger or fear it is pretty much assured we will regret what we have done.
Now I think more before I react. First thoughts may be McDonald’s will not solve my problem. Second and third thoughts could well be the solution to those problems. Self-control is the beginning of learning how to deal with emotions. If you have strong emotional reactions to anything, given time, rational thought will calm those emotions down.
We are made in three parts, The Physical, The Mental and The Spiritual. Many people regard the spiritual as unimportant or attached to emotions. It is not. For me, the spiritual parts of us are about our relationship with God and his with us. I am a Christian and I believe that Jesus was born of a virgin, as an adult lived a sinless life and taught the precepts of the Kingdom of God. At the age of 33, he was crucified for what he taught but on the third day, he rose again from the dead. He was seen by many and ministered another 40 days here on Earth before he was bodily taken up to heaven. I believe that if you believe all of what I have just written and believe that Jesus is Lord you have a place in eternity with Him. Repeating that is a way to decide how much work my spiritual life has to go.
This year I’m good. However, Jesus taught us that we should be good to the poor and the suffering. This year my question must be what I’m doing to follow my Lord in that area and the answer must be not much. And I’m not sure where I should start. My physical issues are many and my resources are tight and yet Charles Dickens wrote in A Christmas Carol “Any Christian working in his little sphere will not have time enough, in this life to complete all he can do.” I paraphrased that but the answer I seek is what can I do? Hopefully and humbly in future blogs, you will read the answers I found on how to help.
New Year’s may not, in reality, be a new beginning. But it can be a renewal. Get past the parties and the cork popping and really dig into who you are and who you want to be in the coming year and you find yourself on the greatest adventure anyone can take, the adventure of conquering yourself.
God bless you dear reader and Happy New Year.